My son pushes back a lot these days, partly the teen and hormones? You can tell him that these things will be added to his planner. If I reward completion, but they get away with copying, I am teaching them wrong skills and mindsets. Oh, and one other thing about the football. Most kids will choose homework over housework. Overall, it has and has re- instilled the importance of this. If anything wasn't finished -- even if they just didn't write their name at the top of the page -- it was considered 'incomplete. I tell my kids that that is their job and they should treat it accordingly explain what happens to you at work if you don't turn in your projects.
It sounds like he's good enough at entertaining himself that the removal of electronics that the doesn't miss them enough, but he might really resent it if you start monopolizing his time. Someplace to be excited about. I used both positive and negative consequences. I have a 13yo daughter in 8th grade. Both experiments were complete and total failures. My middle son is in middle school.
Consider getting after-school tutors for M-Th--we scheduled ours for 1-2 hours per afternoon. . Don't hesitate to become involved. But if I choose to do something else, those consequences catch up to me at work. If his guardian hasn't been helping him academically all along, you could think of him as having the homework habits of a much younger child, and needing an adult to help him learn to structure work completion.
Your daily reminders are stressing her out. I know that his hatred of school has to do with losing his mom and having to go back to school immediately, but beyond identifying this and trying to address it I can't do that grief work for him. If this happened all the time or if a student never completed assignments, then you need to try to find out why. In the meantime, he's got a lot of problems through no fault of his own. I was not engaged except when the subject matter interested me, until I turned 16 and suddenly I 'got it' and all academics became interesting to me, as my view of the world became wider. There's not much you can do except to stay consistent and stay on him.
To me it would make more sense to insist he get up early, go to school early and turn his stuff in. If you look around you, what do the happiest people you know have in common? We definitely don't fight with the school. So I definitely don't feel like he is burdened by too much homework. When this occurs, parents need the more comprehensive solution that The Total Transformation and parent coaching provide. I think a compromise situation usually works best. I find him not getting interested in studying or doing homework after coming home from school. It's hard enough to manage the social aspects of middle school let alone care about academics.
Not right after school, because kids do need a break, but an hour after he gets home, the homework should come out where you can see him do it. Incomplete or missing homework was then due the following day. I generally spent time socializing rather than doing homework. When you talk to your teacher, look sad, serious, agitated, etc. Ann October 2006 Do we need some kind of executive skills tutor or other help? So she took courses purely based on what she could get an A in.
The alarm bells started ringing in Grade Three when, after I personally made sure she turned in the best Space project, she won the prize. So parents often start taking shortcuts that are ineffective, such as taking the cell phone for every offense or grounding a kid for a week. My son is younger, but we were encountering the same thing. D to be a stay-at-home mom now and pursue what I really want to do. Once established, failure can also become self-reinforcing.
Once the chart is filled up, the class earns a reward prize, candy, or extra recess. Students were only sent to study hall if they were missing homework or did not complete an assignment in class. We're trying to build a good foundation for organization, but as soon as we're not there to monitor him i. Are you a caregiver or nanny? Remedy within your framework of quick check? Students really want to do their homework because 10 stars on the homework chart earns them a trip to the cow box, which is full of cool stuff like magic ink and rubber snakes. Maybe not just teens but all of us need more sleep??? Many children need your presence while they work.